Smile...

I read this meaningful and interesting facts about smile in Principle 2 of the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People", and I'm happy to share them here... ;) Hope everyone who read can give a smile too !!!

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It costs nothing, but creates much.
It enriches those who receive, without impoverishing those who give.
It happens in a flash and the memory of it sometimes lasts forever,
None are so rich they can get along without it, and none so poor but are richer for its benefits.
It creates happiness in the home, fosters goodwill in a business, and is the countersign of friends.
It is rest to the weary, daylight to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and Nature’s best antidote fee trouble.
Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is no earthly good to anybody till it is given away.
And if in the last-minute rush of Christmas buying some of our salespeople should be too tired to give you a smile, may we ask you to leave one of yours?
For nobody needs a smile so much as those who have none left to give!

In Instant Age...

Nowadays we always looking for instant solutions to help us to save time in our busy schedule. We might lost our patience in this instant age. We have instant noodles for food, we have Panadol for instant headache release, we have mobile phone for instant contacts, we send our children to tuition to get instant learning ability and instant result improvement. Everything just gotta to be fast, and as fast as possible...

However, something is mean to be fast and something is not... Recently, I watch a video version of a seminar present by Dr. Bruce Lipton. a Research Scientist on cell biology. He shared an interesting real life stories on our Medical Industry. He likes to use mechanic theory to demonstrate the biological theory. One story that he shared is, one day a guy named, David sent his car to the mechanics for checkup because the "Engine LED" is on. Perhaps there is problems with his engine operation since the light is turn on. When David reached the workshop, it was 15 minutes left for the workshop to close for the day. The mechanic advised him to come back tomorrow, as it required 45 mins to diagnose the engine.

Since David drive all the way from home to the workshop, he's going to try his luck with other workshop and see whether other mechanics can help him out. To his surprise, the next mechanics he approached told him there was just a minor problem, and he could get it fixed in 15 mins. After 15 mins, David happily got his car fixed and the "Engine LED" is no longer turn on.

However, what David didn't know is that, instead of diagnose the real cause of the engine alarming signal (the light), the "smart" mechanic just cut off the power supply to the "Engine LED". The following few weeks, David was so curious that his car start having problem here and there... and finally after 3 months, the whole engine broke down.

In the medical practise in our community, most of the doctor will be practising "smart" method to provide us fast and easy solutions to our problem in this Instant Age. When we have headache, we'll be providing the Panadol to kill the pain (alarm signal). Without studying the real cause, or perhaps most doctor might not realize too since the education they have proposed "smart" method too...

Sooner or later, we wondering why most of us start getting all kinds of cancers, and it become a norm and everyone just seems to think that's normal for most of us have cancer when we reach certain age...

Experiencing "the Secret" for the first time...

Wow...It's totally amazing when I was experiencing "The Secret" in Car Park. Today, I go to Sunway Medical Center with my Sis-in-law and her mother to welcome our family new born baby girl. I have gone there for the past 4 days.

At that moment I was driving the car into the Car Park Area, I visuallized a car reversed from a particular car park space that i wish to park when i get there. Without hesitation, I drive my car slowly to that particular car park space that i just visualised. While driving slowly, seems like all the car park spaces are occupied. Keep looking and at same point decide to stop and wait for a while thinking the test might have failed. Just before I stop, the car right in front of me start reversing. I was so overwhelm... that's the secret. YES !!!

You might be wondering what "The Secret" was. That's the title of the documentary movie presented in my previous blog. It presents the power of "Thought" !!! I have been discussing the power of "The Secret" with a few friends, and we keep sharing our experience in the car park practising "The Secret". You might think this is a coincidence, and i definitely won't argue with you since you'll believe it when you experience it if you are willing to give yourself a chance to harness such incredible experience.

Personally, I totally agree with the concepts, ideas, and teaching in the movie "The Secret". And, like riding a bicycle, it takes practise. Please recall your experience when you ride the bicycle successfully for the first time. Plus, visualize you are the first one among your friend who still don't know the existence of bicycle listen to your sharing of the joyful moment of your first successful ride. :D That might be my feeling now.

The journey of life is getting more exciting...

Don't Criticize, Condemn, and Complain...

Yesterday, I went through my eBook collections in my PC and found an interesting eBook that I still never have a chance reading it. The title of the eBook is "How to Win Friends and Influence People." by Dale Carnegie. It is one of the Classics book writen in 1930's with more than 25 million copies sold. If you think "Think and Grow Rich" has benefited you, perhaps this will have more immediate effect on you. ;)

It was advised that only read one chapter a day and repeat the chapter and put the principles to test. Obviously the first chapter is about "Don't Criticize, Condemn, and Complaint..." In this book it has shown a lot of example to bring the the 1st Principle. I have, however, write down some important notes for my future reference. You might not get the impression or importance of the principle without going through the example and stories mention in the Book...

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Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.

B. F. Skinner, the world-famous psychologist, proved through his experiments that an animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior. Later studies have shown that the same applies to humans. By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment.

Hans Selye, another great psychologist, said, “As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.”

The resentment that criticism engenders can demoralize employees, family members and friends, and still not correct the situation that has been condemned.

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When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.

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Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain, and most fools do.
But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.

“A great man shows his greatness,” said Carlyle, “by the way he treats little men.”

Coffee or Cup?

A really nice story to share....

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to hot coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is but normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups and were eyeing each other's cups. Now if life is coffee, then the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, but the quality of Life doesn't change. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee in it. "So, don't let the cups drive you... Enjoy the coffee instead.

The Secret

Last week, I come accross a impactful documentary movie called "The Secret". The way the movie present the idea of "The Secret" is really influencial. Before this, I have came across some ideas presented in the movie. However, the movie had presented the movie in a more complete picture and more convincing in some way. Perhaps, it's because i have had agreement of some concepts before i watch the movie. When, those concepts that I had come across are beign linked together by "The Secret", they become so clear and so clear to me.

If you are a self improvement seeking person or self life discovery person like me, this movie is definitely a must watch for you. You'll find out that all the missing link began to reveal in some ways. If you are first time seeing into this concept, it will blow your mind or totally turn you off depends on the frequency of your mind.

For some appetizer for the movie, you can visit the preview for the official the website http://thesecret.tv/ . For review from another blogger called Steve Pavlin, he has pretty good review and insight on the movie.(Highly recommended)

If you are willing to pay USD5 for pay per view or USD29.90 for the DVD, please go ahead and buy from the official site and support the movie. Or, if you don't whether it's worth the value, I recommend a link to download the whole movie for FREE.

After downloading the movie, if you like it, please buy the original DVD. Or to support the movie in alternative way is to spread the words to more people so that more people can benefit from the content of the movie. (Highly recomended)

I really don't feel like letting you to miss the movie because of the USD5 or USD29.90 payment. Therefore, if you are using Bit Torrent Client Software, you can download the whole movie for FREE from this link1 or link2. If you don't have a broadband, I'm willing to help you to download and send you a burnt CD for a little fee of RM10 (for Malaysians Only), for any reason you don't like it, please return me and i'll refund your money. Please email me if you interested. ;)

Finally hope you guys enjoy! If everyone apply 'The Secret', I believe the world will definitely a better place and better world and heading into the 'Wisdom Age' as mentioned in the book "The 8th Habit" of our life time.